It's pretty funny looking back to what I thought would happen if I ever told my parents that I was actually agnostic. I mean, they were bound to get angry or at least have a negative reaction of some kind - right?
It was kind of nerve-wracking even planning the conversation with them. Telling them yesterday that I wanted to talk to them about something important later this afternoon was super hard, but I did it. Finally planning the conversation really instilled into me that this was really going down and in a little more than a day too.
Asking them to come down so that we could have the talk was probably one of the most difficult things I've ever done in my life. It took a lot of courage for me to remind them.
Throughout the whole thing, my parents were surprisingly understanding. Their reactions were just so different than what I was expecting. They even admitted that they were some aspects of Christianity that didn't make sense to them either.
I still have to attend mass, but at least this burden that began when I was eleven was finally lifted. It really isn't healthy for a person to keep a secret like this for so long just to themselves. I am so glad I expressed my true thoughts and concerns because I feel so much lighter and at peace now.
This experience truly makes me feel like I can do anything. It feels just like when I finally realized that my legs had finally gone back to "normal" after a whole year of the worst uncomfortableness.
I never want to stop having experiences like this because even though they may be painful to go through, they are worth it because of the amount of potential learning and knowledge from them that you will be able to use in the future.
That's awesome! I'm glad they didn't have a negative reaction :) I don't come from a religious family so I may not have a full understanding of that world, but I really don't understand why parents would put that kind of pressure onto a child to follow their lifestyle choices? I mean the closest experience I have to this kinda scenario is my French parents mocking me and making my life harder because I want to be vegetarian. But I assume it's much different with religion, especially those which have turned into literal capitalistic schemes with government backing. Not-so-fun fact: Although the constitution gives americans the freedom to follow whichever religion they please, it does not offer protections to non-religious people, which is why in some states you cannot work in a government position whilst being an atheist. I think in NC you can't be an atheist governor but don't quote me on that I'm not sure of the specific titles.
@ZED Yeah, I just read up on that, and it's sadly true for 7 other states.
I think religion is much more than a lifestyle choice, so that's why parents would want their children to believe in what the parents believe. It's like if the parent believed that not necessarily believing in their god/s would merit you getting some sort of punishment, then they obviously would want their children to believe in their god/s. It can even be possibly seen as a sin for the parent to allow their children not to believe.
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