When I was a child I could not wait to be an adult.
I thought being an adult meant no one could tell me to go to bed on time (Now I fight to make myself go to bed on time because I have adult responsibilities that require me to function and to function I need enough sleep)
I thought being an adult meant I could eat icecream whenever I wanted (Well...yes I can but I have to pay for the icecream....and I have to go the whole way to the store to buy it....and if I eat it more than every once in a while I don't feel too good physically after so....my younger self would be disappointed to find out this isn't really the case)
I thought being an adult meant mom and dad couldn't force me to go outside when I wanted to play video games (Now I am forced to spend time not outside bc of work and enjoy when I get to spend time in the nice weather)
As a child I rolled my eyes when the grown ups got excited about boring things like a new pot or a new Swiffer mop (Now I almost cried from joy when my first pan arrived)
I thought being an adult meant I would finally be able to do whatever I want because I would have my own house and be in charge (Now after having run through hundreds of scenarios and crunched the numbers in my mind, I don't think I will even come CLOSE to owning a house.)
So yea, adulthood is not what I thought it would be.
It is not all bad though, thee is a lot of freedom. It can be stressful, but overall life is good.I am grateful for a lot. Like my EBT so I don't starve while trying to find a job and get this major surgery scheduled. The ability to take a hot shower. A roof over my head, clothes and air conditioning/heat. My family and friends who mean the world to me.
Adulthood is tough :( I lived with my parents until I was 26/27. You moved out really early in comparison. I definitely would not have been as prepared for the world moving out at your age.
@JustMegawatt Yea adulthood really is difficult, especially now. It is so hard to get a job, and everything is so expensive. These days they are wanting people to have like 2+ years of experience for a cashier job. That's crazy! I actually technically moved out of my parents when I was 17, I spent five years in mental hospitals though so at 21 I finally got my own place, affordable housing. Now I am trying to get a job to get an apartment. I actually am looking at this place for rent, I have a viewing next week so hopefully that goes well bc it is a really nice place. My one friend is trying to buy her first house, and the housing market is TERRIBLE. So yea it is rough out there, we're all just out here trying to survive it seems.
@rachelrae2003 That is pretty crazy that they require two years of experience for a cashier job. Things sound insanely tough. Thank you for putting things into perspective for me. Everything is definitely more expensive now. Best of luck in getting this new apartment :)
Thankfully I am fine career-wise and financially, but it’s all relative, I am still frustrated, often unhappy, stressed, despite doing fine in this one area. I bought a condo in 2021 and it’s fully paid off. I still experience problems and so on despite this, which I write about and try to overcome.
Just never give up, be consistent, and you can achieve anything you want to.
@JustMegawatt Thanks, that means a lot!
No need to compare situations, even if you are okay financially and career wise, it doesn't mean life is easy for you.
I always think of it like this, if someone is drowning in 50 feet of water and another person is drowning in 100 feet of water, they are both still drowning it doesn't matter who has more water. Because I guarantee there are many who have it worse financially than me.
We all have different struggles, different hell we have to go through. And everyone's pain is valid. Your struggles are just as valid as anyone else's. And I am sorry you have to deal with those things daily. I really hope things get better for you. :)
@rachelrae2003 Same for you as well :)
Your early 20s are awesome, enjoy them. This doesn't necessarily have to be true for everyone, because I think anyone's life can continue to improve and get better at any age, but I think I did have an easier and more fun time when I was in my early 20s, as opposed to now. Even though I still lived with my parents back then, and I still had my own problems back then, things felt easier and more carefree. Again I don't want to suggest the idea that things always gets worse as we get older, that's not always the case, but early 20s is special.
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