Is this offensive?

10:27 PM

I got a message from Iyazo on Facebook very pissed and mad at me, writing a long paragraph and calling me a homophobe. Uh, what? I don't hate gay people or whatever, I don't have anything against anyone's gender. So wtf? Did I make a post going around saying "Omg gay people blah blah blah"? No....

This is the paragraph of what I wrote, and the part that got @Iyazo angry at me is bolded:

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I went out again tonight and just went to the highway bridge where I walk back and forth and just sang and screamed my lungs out until I was hoarse again. I was there for around two hours, singing as loud as I possibly could, walking back and forth. I was so frustrated I just let it all out. It takes such a long time to get my voice to become hoarse, I'm literally screaming at the top of my lungs basically, for two hours, and I am not getting hoarse. After that time though, my voice does become hoarse again, and I can barely hear myself speak. My voice becomes very breathy and I sound gay, without even trying, I just sounded like a gay person because my voice just becomes so breathy when it's hoarse. I went back home after that.

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So all I did was just describe how I sounded. That's how I literally thought I sounded. He asked me to apologize, so I did. The conversation was very unproductive though. I uploaded the conversation here.

Next time I should probably just record my voice and upload it, because that's how I thought I sounded. When I spoke a sentence, I felt like I sounded gay, that's all, not that it was negative. Did I say it was negative? Did I say it was bad to sound gay? I intentionally sang for two hours to get to that state on purpose to sound like that. There's no reasoning with this person in any topic. Deleted my replies on veganism too when I would reply to them and their horrible logic.

Anyway, now they've gone around making super angry posts at someone that isn't even a homophobe as they claim. I could have just deleted that part if they asked, and would have had no issues, but whatever.

I think they should have replied to me more calmly like "Hey, I found this post offensive. Can you delete or change this part here?" But no, they instantly went on full hatred mode and started cursing me out and yelling at me and even making very negative posts.

Update: I found a video example of how my voice sounded after getting hoarse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0mlaJft5aE

This is the only example of a hoarse person talking on YouTube. My voice sounded very breathy like the guy in this video. Is the guy gay or homosexual? I don't know nor do I care nor do I have any hatred for him if he is, but I think his voice does sound that way, right? My voice sounded exactly like his. Also check out the 1:01 minute marker.

When I sounded like this, I described myself as sounding gay. That's it. Not that it was negative. Not that it was meant to be offensive. Way to get very offended at that @iyazo when I already apologized and offered to delete it and even said I meant no offense at all. There no reasoning with this guy on any subject at all.

He also tells me to "fuck off" while he spams me on Facebook and on this website and in my comments.

Update 2: So the "gay male speech" has been observed and studied. There is an entire wikipedia page for it that has people studying and researching this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_male_speech

And a movie called "Do I Sound Gay" by a gay person came out too: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Do_I_Sound_Gay

So what was there to get offended about? All I said was I sounded gay when my voice was hoarse and breathy, and that video I linked above is 100% an example of how exactly I sounded. Even gay people have made a movie on sounding gay, and it is even an observed and studied phenomenon. So wtf?

Due to how peacefully this could have been resolved, I think whatever angered Iyazo was far deeper than this simple little comment I made, they also had some resentment against me from earlier arguments, so it was easy to take all that rage out on me.

If someone else posted a similar comment, would they have acted the same way? I really doubt it. They probably would not have gone "You fucking raging homophobe, fuck off, fuck you" I understand that it's really me and other issues they are angry against, not specifically that one statement.