It’s so difficult for me to maintain a relationship. I was dating a girl since December and in the beginning was just casual sex, but we started to talk every day sending morning messages, etc. As a result I developed some feelings for her and I was ok because I thought she was in the same frequency as me. With this I mean:
⁃ We cook dinner together, then she spend the night with me and in the morning we had breakfast
⁃ We went to some ice cream dates
⁃ We listening to music and talk while I was driving around
⁃ We watched a movie
It wasn’t just sex anymore, like we spend the whole afternoon texting each other talking about music, series, movies and etc.
The day she went to my house to have dinner, my mom eat with us (with the excuse that she was my friend but anyway) she meet my MOM
And yesterday she said that she wanna talk so we did but I was expecting to start a real relationship or something like ”what do you think of being just you and me?” and she said “for me it’s okay we date other people”
I get paralyzed and said “oh ok” but it was definitely not okay, so as my feeling was messy up I decided to buy an ice cream and listening to music while I was trying ti understand what I was feeling about the situation
She send a message saying “if you get hurt by something I sad or if I didn’t express myself well, you can tell me”
But I just visualized and said nothing yep
I don’t really know what to do, but I think that I will end this, because what she said really make me confused and maybe I have lost the interesting , IDK

I really shouldn't butt in your life right now or ever probably, so take a pinch of salt if you would.
I think you have to be upfront and honest with her about your feelings. How you were thinking of going steady, how her words hurt you. Because it's perfectly natural to get sick of the thought of polyamory. Even if it's not progressive and socially acceptable.
Also, I think you should ask her if she really would be happy with you being with other women. It might be the case that she is insecure and is trying to keep you by not holding on too tight. Maybe she was hoping that you would get angry at the suggestion.
Women do tend to have a roundabout way of doing things, especially when there is a lot to lose. So such a scenario is not impossible.
However, if she was serious then I'm afraid she doesn't know what love looks like or she just doesn't have any for you. In that case, I wouldn't blame you for moving on.
Take care or yourself
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